Light Your Fire

I attended a happy hour recently and met some really cool new people. As the people dwindled, there was a small group (male and female) of us still sitting there when it came up that I was a Feng Shui consultant. After the general questions were asked, questions about the relationship area of the home and how to enhance followed (no one was married).

I did a quick explanation of where the relationship area is located in terms of Black Sect Feng Shui (far back right-hand corner of the house if you are standing at your front door). Then immediately switched to an area that relates heavily to a partnership: your bedroom. That is the area to start with if you are thinking of shifting energy.

I gave them three initial things to think about in terms of their bedrooms:

1. Is it romantic? Eyes widened and foreheads creased as they each envisioned their rooms. None were able to give a resounding “YES!” (which is not unusual). I suggested they each take a fresh look and try to incorporate some romantic elements in their room: the color red, a pair of candles, pairs of items, romantic artwork, etc.

2. Do you have two nightstands? They can be identical, but don’t have to be. They should be about the same size since they symbolize balance in a relationship. Try to avoid one person having a much larger and more imposing nightstand (metaphorically the balance shifts to them). From a practical point of view both people need a place to set their water, have a clock and be able to turn on a light.

3. Do you have room for another person? This doesn’t mean you need to empty an entire dresser - but you do need to create space for another person (a drawer, a shelf, the ability to hang up a couple of things). This can be a helpful exercise in clearing clutter. Remember the 80/20 rule: you wear 20% of your clothes 80% of the time, so there should be some items you can part with.

As with all of these, the key here is to incorporate what appeals to you. If you dislike red, then don’t add that color (it will be an energy drain). What works for someone else might not work for you. Changes don’t need to be big or expensive, even a small adjustment can work wonders.